No one pays attention to me. I also have problems. I am facing failure one after the other. i passed matriculation however I could not complete intermediate . I am getting less mark from last 4 years. This time also I don’t have any hope. Father says not to worry about money. He is ready to spend and wants me to become an engineer. I am confused. No one is sincere with me. I am losing my trust.
(Irfan Ahmed, Faisalabad)
Advice: If you discuss your problem with everyone every time then there will be a time that no one will pay attention to you and that’s what is happening with you at the moment. Telling your problems but instead you are showing your weakness to others. You should discuss your problems with someone who is ready to listen to you and give you better solution and guide you. Parents should also listen to their children problem and should give them freedom to choose the subject based on their interest. This way they can get better results. Instead of pressuring them to choose field. You pay attention to what you can do better and accordingly continue your education people who work hard can easily know their abilities and this helps them succeed In every aspect of life.
Punishment of a brother’s fault to his sister?
Bhai ki saza behan ko?
I have fixed my sons marriage with a beautiful girl and good nature. Girls’ parents are also nice. We were satisfied with the family so we fixed the proposal. But after some days we got to hear from other people that the girl’s brother had bad companies. We investigated this issue and spoke to them. Girl’s parent started crying in front of us and told us that their entire family is pious. However their son recently started friendship with wrong people. They ensured us that they will solve this problem and keep their son away from such bad friendship. Now we have heard that girl’s brother has been caught in theft. The boy says that he is not involved in the theft. Now we are not sure what we should do. We totally believe in simplicity and truthfulness of the parents however we are rethinking on the proposal because of the girl’s brother. The in laws of my other two sons are very educated and respectable people. They are unaware of this situation. We are afraid that if we continue this proposal, and what if the girls brother is proven guilty in this theft. If we reject this proposal how will the innocent girl and parents feel? Kindly advise us.
Advice: I believe that more than the girl’s family, it is a test of your patience and kindness. It is not the fault of the parent neither the girl that the boy is involved in wrong activities. The girls should not suffer due to this. Our beloved prophet said in his khutba that son is not responsible for his father sins and neither the father is responsible for son’s sins. Your intuition is also telling you that the girl and parent are not responsible for the doing of their son hence they should not suffer. As far as relatives are concerned, once the girl and your son are married, you will only have relation with you r daughter in law. You should not be accountable on what the girl’s family is doing. We can only expect that the girls lead her life peacefully with her husband.
The biggest Wealth
Sab sey Bari Daulat
I am business man who has four children. I am 55 years old. I don’t know why I am feeling something missing in my married life. There is a 35 years old lady in our relative who is not yet married. I like the life style of the family a lot. She is a wealthy lady who has own house, car and wealth. I felt that she tries to be very close to me. She wants to get married to me. They do not have any demand like mehar, car or house. My wife is a beautiful lady who is educated, smart and also loves me a lot but I do not why they we still do not have strong bond despite of living together for so many years.
(Mohammad Azeem, Lahore)
Advice: the reality is that you will ruin your life after your second marriage. I would suggest you to build up courage and discuss this matter your wife and see her reaction. You are a business man. You are getting happy of the thought of your second marriage as they are rich enough and have no demand. You are looking at the benefits of this marriage. Please think of your children. This will affect them. May be you will be unable to understand their feeling during your happiness. You have right to do the second marriage, however you should think that this step can generate problems in your current family and how will you overcome that. The owner of very famous car Ford Henri ford was celebrating his 85th marriage anniversary. Someone asked him, what is the secret of his successful married life?” He replied, “the secret is sticking to the same model” The biggest wealth for a person is peaceful life, which you already have. Please try to avoid ruining it.
